Welcome Oscar Daniel!

He’s here!

He has been for a while actually.  I just checked and Oscar Daniel has been here for a grand total of 175 days now.  Man, in some ways that time went by so quickly.  But in other ways it feels like he has always been around.

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It’s now March and Oscar was born on Tuesday 27th September 2016.  He weighed 6lbs 13oz and arrived at 12:48pm, but if you want to read his full birth story, you can see that on my healthy living blog A Healthier Moo.  He ended up arriving via a planned Caesarean as he was still breech at 39 weeks.  Not the birth I had planned, but from talking to other new Mums, it seems no baby sticks to a birth plan! 😉

After some struggles in the early days with his weight (Oscar didn’t reach 7lbs for several weeks) he has been truly thriving these past few months and showing us his lovely little personality at every opportunity!

At nearly 6 months old now he sleeps through the night (usually), loves his swimming lessons, is very much in 3-6m clothing and his favourite things to do are currently sticking his tongue out and touching his toes.

He’s booked in to start nursery at the beginning of June when I return to work.  Currently I intend on returning to work for 7 weeks, – the final half term before the end of the academic year.  I’m struggling with letting someone look after Oscar from 7:30am-6:15pm five days a week for those seven weeks, and can’t imagine having to place him into childcare permanently during the working week.  With no family or friends in a similar situation living nearby though, it is the only option available to us.

I say that we are very fortunate to be able to get by on just my Husband’s salary, but we have worked hard to be in this position, having both lived well within our means for several years before deciding to start a family and first owning a large proportion of our house.  I would like us to be comfortable though, and intend on focusing some of my efforts on bringing in some extra income whilst I am at home taking care of Oscar.

Something else I would like to look into whilst I am not out at ‘work’ is adopting a more minimalist lifestyle.  I am a hoarder, – always have been.  But hoarding so many things that I might need one day costs time and money.  I can never find those things I’ve hoarded away so often end up re-purchasing.  Clearing away and cleaning so many extra items always takes so much longer as well.  It’s such a time-sapper.  Hoarding is one of my biggest flaws (inherited from my Dad I’m sure!) and Oscar growing up to also mimic my hoarding is not something I want to see!

I’ve rambled enough now.  So, to sum it up – I see this blog mainly focusing on my life with Oscar – experiencing the world as a first time Mum and trying to make ends meet with the extra costs a child brings.  Feel free to follow my journey!

Hello world! (An intro)

So, I guess I should introduce myself in my first post on my new blog…

I’m Mary.  Thirty-one, a high school ICT teacher, addicted to running long distance, in love with my cat Bella…oh and nearly twenty-one weeks pregnant with my first child.

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I’m probably not a typical first time Mum.  Although I love working with children, I don’t have much interest in babies at all.  They just don’t DO anything!  I’m not somebody to make funny noises or talk to a baby in the room and I definitely won’t be lining up to hold a baby that came from inside another human just hours earlier in the day.

I am under the impression that most mums-to-be have begun counting down the day until they get to meet their baby by this stage in their pregnancy.  Whereas, in my case, I’ve begun making detailed training plans ready for when I can start training properly again as I hope to be running my first 100 miler less than a year after giving birth.  I write all about my running adventures over on my running blog A Healthier Moo though.

Don’t get me wrong, I am very much looking forward to having children, and especially excited to start showing them things, taking them places and giving them plenty of ‘firsts’.  That’s the teacher in me coming out I guess, but I think I will enjoy it more when they are a little older and I can interact with them a little easier rather than when they are just a crying, pooping machine in the early days.

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The actual birth itself doesn’t worry me, other than if I were to have a caesarean.  That means more time away from doing things (including running) and losing some of my independence.  I’m a very independent person.

I’m not too worried about the weight gain, breast growth and all the other physical changes I thought would concern me when it came to being pregnant back when I was a teenager.  My actual concerns are the inability to do anything meaningful for several months, the possibility of random people wanting to touch my stomach, friends and strangers thinking I just want to talk baby and losing who I am.  One of my friends said to me a couple of years ago “I never introduce myself as Harrison’s Mum, always as Carley”, as she didn’t want to ‘just’ be someone’s Mum and I completely understand where she was coming from.

I do really want to have children, but I don’t want to just be ****’s Mum and talk Mum things and do Mum things and wear Mum clothes.  I still want to be Mary and enjoy the things that I enjoy doing, just to also be able to share them with my mini-me too!

So, if you feel like following me along on my (very honest!) pregnancy journey, then please feel free to follow me on Bloglovin’ or Twitter.  Things are still very new around here, but expect some site personalisation to appear soon.